“So where exactly are we going with this?” If you’re a female, you’re not allowed to ask questions. Wouldn’t want to get your “friend” or whatever we’re calling him today, upset. You’re not allowed to catch an attitude when he flirts with other women and after sex, you’re not allowed to lay on him or do anything that signals you’re hoping this ”situation” could be something more. If you’re a male, congratulations. She trusts you now at least, a lot more than she did before she let you in. (Pun intended) You have all the benefits of being a boyfriend without all the typical girlfriend nagging.
You have an obligation to no one but yourself because well, you’re single. And you love being single. She’s taking her cues from you now. Games of hot and cold. Sometimes I’ll call you sometimes I won’t. But when you need her, you’ll expect her to be there for you. Front and center. When you’re feeling emotional (as guys sometimes do… Don’t front) you’ll want to fall asleep in her lap and ramble on about your horrible week at work. She takes whatever you’re willing to give because after all, this is what she signed up for.
Most of the time, women want more out of the “friendship” but they’re willing to settle for you and your fear of commitment as well as the fact that you enjoy the air of mystery hovering over your relationship status. Ladies, save the pet names for the relationship. Don’t refer to him as your popsugar muffin if he doesn’t deserve all that creativity.
Does a “Friend With Benefits” situation really benefit both people involved and who is more likely to get hurt, the man or the woman? Hmm…
I dont tolerate any of that foolishness, it only serves the man. You will get nothing without a title, I dont play house!
Someone always gets hurt in the end. These types of situations never work, and always end up in resentment.
It can if both parties have realistic expectations. Someone you trust enough……. but don’t want that kind of commitment yet.
I don’t play house either. -_-
i have been here before, and i can say that i defiantly think the women ends up hurt the most. we women interpret things differently from men, so ones feelings could be different than the other. All i know is in the beginning, sure, i was like yea whatever, but after two years of going through our up and downs, ill admit i fell in love with him. Did i end up alone? sure. but did i learn something from it? of course. Ladies and men, if your going to do something like this, be CAREFUL! and know what BOTH of you want out of it.
~P.S. also know WHEN to walk away. the signs will be there, dont ignore them.
I def could NOT do a friends with benefits situation! If you ain’t tryin’ to wife me…you ain’t gettin’ nothin’!
Yo this is SOoooo biased and targeted directly @ men… Purposely making us look like the agressor and purportrator in this situation. I kno PLENTY of females who have friends with benefits and Love it and bragg about it. Actually i mno females in this situation who are a lot more cold hearted and feel like they can drop their partner @ any time because niggaz can eaily be replaced especially n these situations. So that being said it definitely works both ways n it really depends on who thecagressor is n wut kind of relationship it truly is.
-Kyd
I say FWB’s is great. As long as they are actually friends, then there shouldn’t be a problem. People actually care about their friends. There’s a huge difference between FWB’s and just some chick I’m hittin. She’s not my friend, she’s just a consistent sexual partner.
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As a girl who’s had friends with benefit relationships, I’d like to call bullshit. Just because I don’t have a penis doesn’t mean that I have to emotionally attatch myself to anything that does, wherever he’s sticking it.
True, these relationships don’t work if one person wants more, but if you both just want casual sex without the hassle fo an actual relationship, it is great. Seriously. Some of the best fun I’ve had has been with a friend with benefits…