This discussion comes up a lot with me and my home girls. Are people really into interracial relationships? Or “down with the swirl.” Are they only accepted in Hollywood? This is a question I ask myself all the time. Do interracial relationships really work these days? There was a point time where people of different races weren’t allowed to date, but with those walls down people still turn their nose up at the thought. Read more about this after the jump
Love is said to see no color, but how can you build something with so many obvious differences. When people come from different backgrounds, they tend to lack things in common. Why is it acceptable for a latino woman to date a black man, but when a white woman dates a black man she gets looked at with disgust? That shows that times have not really changed. Women still feel certain ways when they see their men with the opposite race..
“I rather my man leave me for another man of the same race, then see him leave with a chick that looks nothing like his mother!” – AllThatsFab.com Female Reader
“I just want to bag a white girl, because I know my baby gonna come out with good hair.” – AllThatsFab.com Male Reader
“I really don’t see anything wrong with it. All men are dogs in my opinion. White, Black, Spanish, and Asian they are all dogs. But I will say that White men and Asian men treat you a lot better, because they ain’t never had the darker berry” – AllThatsFab.com Female Reader
Now people like that can sometimes come off crazy or racist, but that is how a lot of people think. Those same stigmas from the 60’s and early 70’s are still relevant. Some think it hard enough to make same-race relationships work, it’s probably more difficult to make a interracial relationship successful.
Now what do you fab readers think? Can interracial relationships work? Don’t look at the celebs in opposite-race relationships, look at the everyday real world. us at AllThatsFab have gone back and forth about this topic, so we want to knwo what all you fabulous people think..
Damn those reader comments were ignorant as hell. Honestly around my way, white women/black men relationships are very common. I honestly think how it will work depends on your family history/culture and also where you’re from. And most importanly how important that culture is to you. If you are a man who wants to uphold your culture and pass that on to your children, the reality is it probably wont happen if you are married to someone of another race.
But I believe if you truly want to find a mate, then you should not just look to one race. To me this goes for not just relationships but friendships. I mean there are 6 billion people in the world, and you’re going to close your self off to over 95% of that?! That’s just closeminded as all get out.
And lets just face it the reality is race is the last thing people need to be thinking about in relationships. Word to the Craigslist killer. You think you know, but you have NO idea.
That’s real. Race isn’t important to me, but like everyone, I do have preferences.
Sheer numbers my nubian sisters. You have to open up your dating options if you are looking for great companionship. The numbers say at least 7 black women for every black man. If you are looking for a one on one that would mean six women are going to be stuck by themselves. Better to have a white, latino or Asian guy who is going to treat you right than the bad Black guy who knows he as five others to juggle if you don’t play his game in the wack the way he wants you to. No if you get a great black guy you will be in heaven!!!
This is the dumbest shit ever.
I’ve never dated in my race. I think what makes a relationship work or not work has more to do with communication and a willingness to work at it more than if the color of your skin “matches”.
I agree completely with Ps8612! Relationships work because of communication and a willingness to keep working on it. It has NOTHING to do with your race.
I am in an interracial relationship. And have been for the past 4 years. And we’re going strong.
To think in 2009, that people are still hung up on this topic is crazy. People will always find a reason to hate. They’re called haters, and it’s in their blood to act a fool.
I was listening to this talk radio show the other day – a mother called in and said all of her 17 year-old son’s friends are ‘down with the swirl’, and her son said that no race (esp black ‘race’) will exist in about 40 years b/c of all mixing. Since most of those born on American soil are some kinda ‘mixed’ by default (just categorized based on the ‘predominant race’ <<<so silly to me, but that’s another story) I tend to agree. His projection is probably a little off, but a valid comment nonetheless.
I think that if someone is lucky enough to find love then who cares what race they are and besides, who are we to decide who someone can and can’t be with?
I cant speak for anyone else but, I am a white male and I have been married to my beautiful black wife for over 10 years. We have beautiful children. My kids have a nice olive tone to there skin and wavy blonde hair. Ive always found children born from inter-racial couples to be amazingly beautiful. Love has no color yall. It just doesn’t.
KH Edclectic you said it better than I. Thanks. A Barack Obama may not arrive at my home on a white horse anytime soon. Be well.
i DON’T THINK RACE SHOULD EVEN BE A FACTOR. yOU TAKE PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE NOT WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE. Our souls and our hearts are not black or white. Your true self is in your heart and soul.