A mature woman that’s looking for a serious relationship looks for a successful man who has a good overall package: Is he spiritual? If he is then he isn’t going to be the type trying to hit and quit it. That’s for ungodly men. Now if the woman wants the same it’s ok. But if you are leading a woman on to believe you are serious, etc. and lying to her then you are not ready for a mature, serious relationship. But that’s why women need to be smart enough to decifer the men from the boys.

-Don’t be turned off if you see people you wouldn’t ordinarily hang out or associate with outside of a bar or restaurant….

-If you go to a restaurant go somewhere different you wouldn’t ordinarily go to. If you eat Southern food all of the time why not try Thai for once. Don’t be afraid of other kinds of food. If you’re in New York may I suggest “yakiniku west”. You take off your shoes, sit at a low table and grill your own food. It’s pretty cool.

-If you want to go somewhere low key and don’t want to run into your friends, coworkers or an ex try a new spot that you know for a fact people from your neighborhood won’t go. Don’t go to common areas that everyone knows about. If you don’t mind if you run into people then by all means ignore this. One spot I like is Slate in NY. You can have dinner then go play pool or pingpong while listening to good music on the lower level. I love it there. Go to Riingo or Japonaise for sushi. Try a rooftop bar in the summer. Go to City Island for seafood and sit outside to enjoy the sun.

-Don’t be turned off if you see people you wouldn’t ordinarily hang out or associate with. Be open. Live a little and don’t be intimidated. On the outside the place may look wack but once you go in you may be surprised. I say this because I went out with a brotha once and he didn’t want to go in because he saw a bunch of white people outside. I was bothered because he wasn’t open to different things. Its 2009 who cares what anyone thinks and you have every right to be there.

-DO NOT stare at other women. Keep the focus on your date. If you feel the urge to look let it be a glance not a glare. It’s disrespectful to stare.

-When picking the first date think out of the box. If you have the money do something exciting. Trapeze class at Chelsea Piers (if you’re in NY), Indoor rock climbing, rollerskating etc.

-Go to the park and talk for a bit. This eases the nervousness. Then you can head over to dinner.

-Don’t pick up your phone during the date unless it’s for an emergency. Not because ya boy needs to borrow your car or return something to you. Save that for later and respect the lady. Put it on vibrate. Don’t tweet during your date either.

-Don’t dress like sh*t. If you’re going somewhere nice. Don’t come wearing a gold chain or an outfit like you would normally wear going to the local bodega. Come on if you’re woman took time to prepare you should to. I’m not saying dress like Kanye or anything but take a little pride in how you present yourself. Don’t have your jeans sagging to your ankles with a belt around it. Clean your nails no one wants to see dirt under your finger nails.

-I don’t want to hear about your ex. She’s in the past and tha’ts where she should stay…in the past!!

-On the first date don’t tell the woman your demands: I want my woman to cook, clean and mop the floors etc. It can be a turn off. If she says it first then of course you can continue the convo but don’t bring it up.

-Feel your date out (not physically..lol). When she speaks if she’s not cursing try not to do it…at least on the first date. If you hear her cursing then I guess it’s ok if you two are alright with that. Every other word shouldn’t be “n***a” try not to use that word. Don’t talk to me like I’m one of your male friends. I’m a lady treat me that way. Be yourself but try not to be offensive.

-DO NOT talk about future plans with this woman if you have no intention of seeing her again. It’s misleading and it’s not fair to string her along. Think about it would you like that to be done to you? I respect a man that’s honest. I went on a date and the guy told me he was seeing someone else and had no intention of settling down. I wasn’t happy to hear it because he was so FINE but I had to respect him for telling it like it is. I knew I didn’t want to deal with that situation.

-If you’re interested tell her that. Let her know you are feeling her and would like to see her again. Don’t lie and play games..seriously. It’s not cool.

-Always, always check on the lady to make sure she got home ok. Even if things went wrong you should check on her out of respect. Be a man. If she doesn’t appreciate it and is rude then she’s not the one for you and you can move on to the next chick.

I agree with that statement, for the most part. We’d be naive to assume otherwise. Men treat us according to what we put up with and how we expect to be treated. I think it depends moreso on the female, and not the guy. The same guy who may wine and dine female #1 then introduce her to his parents may just hit and quit female #2 because of how she acts and how she expects to be treated