His phone is locked. He doesn’t like you standing around him when he’s online. He leaves the room frequently to answer the phone. Hm. You might have a problem.
Discussing relationship issues in the office is very common in our world. Yesterday, a friend asked, “Is it wrong to look through your husband’s phone and email without him knowing?” My immediate response was, “Heck no, you should never do that. You’ll find something you probably won’t like.” I said this, knowing damn well that I’ve looked through each of my X’s phones while they stepped out of the room.
So, ATF went to our twitter friends and asked the question:
Is it okay to go through your boyfriend’s phone without him knowing?
And these are the responses we got:
Yeah, It is a bad thing to go through your man’s phone because–well you should be able to trust them enough to feel like you don’t have to snoop around. And most of the time, when you do snoop around, you’re more likely to find something that won’t make you too happy.
In a personal experience, I ignored something I saw in my X’s phone:
In my case, too many signs were pointing to the fact that he was cheating. Looking through his phone was immature and dumb, I should have just walked away from the situation entirely. Being insecure about your relationship causes you to go out of your way to search for problems.
Ian Jarrell says:
I feel that anything you do out in the public should be able to be viewed..Twitter, Facebook, Myspace can all be check…but the phone is a big NO, NO…But beware when you go looking you may just find something you don’t like
We would really recommend that if you are in a relationship, you should be able to trust a man enough that you don’t have to go snooping around. But if you walk into a room and he’s slamming his laptop shut or getting off of the phone quickly—then you might have a little problem and it’s something that should be discussed rather than searching through his personal things behind his back.
Doubled edged sword–if your nosy ass keeps looking for shit and he finds out, it won’t end up well. If your nosy ass actually finds something..it won’t end up well either.
The more you dig, the deeper the hole you get yourself into gets.
Great job TINI….
@jokesta, i feel u. but is it better to find out, or just be oblivious of him doing something he shouldn’t be doing?
i once had an ex who i had just broken up with send me naughty pictures of herself. only to find out that she had been sending them to her other ex-boyfriends as well. she was (probably still is) a whore.
Was that off-topic?
If you have a reason to check out their phone or email then do so. You have a job to protect yourself before it’s too late.
I did this recently. I found out PLENTY! The problem with snooping is you usually find out somethings you were better off not knowing. Seek & ye shall find:GOOD SAYING! If you look & find be prepared to handle business and move on. If you look and don’t find, don’t keep looking! Those of you who find something and stay; it does more harm to you than it does to them.
ALL THIS TO SAY, IF YOU HAVE A REASON TO SNOOP AND DON’T FEEL SECURE ENOUGH TO JUST ASK THE QUESTION …MAYBE YOU NEED A NEW “PARTNER”
If you feel you have to snoop through your man’s phone then you shouldn’t be with him in the first place.
I dont think it is ok to look through your partners phone. especially if they have told you to stay out of it. However your partner should not take advantage of you not looking!!!!!! There should never be things to hide. Either one of you should be able to lay your phone down or leave your email open and know that your partner wont look and even if they did they wont find anything. If you cant trust and they cant stop talking to other women then both of you should move on because it just wont work. The more you look the more he/she will want to cheat. looking is like accusing them and so they think well I might as well give them a reason to look. If you have doubts about your partner and it is a new relastionship MOVE ON. The whole reason to date is to find the person you will spend forever with. If you are married or been together for along time TALK TALK TALK dont let the situation grow.