Here's Why Oprah and her Long-Time Flame Are Rarely Seen in Public

Oprah Winfrey was actress Gwyneth Paltrow's first guest on her inaugural Goop podcast on Thursday. The media mogul sat for a 75 minute talk on a range of topics.

One topic Winfrey touched on in particular is one that has stirred much speculation: why she's not seen very often in public with her long-time boyfriend, Stedman Graham. As usual with Winfrey, there's a very sensible reason behind the decision.

Graham and Winfrey have been together for a long time-- their courtship has lasted longer than most celebrity marriages. In fact, it's lasted longer than most modern celebrities have been alive. The two met back in 1986, and they've been in a relationship ever since.

In 1992, Graham and Oprah were engaged for a brief period, but ultimately decided that they did not want to be married. Instead, they opted for a spiritual union.

Winfrey once noted that if they had gotten married, they probably would have not lasted this long.

"We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world. His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that," she told Vogue in an interview.

But for a couple going strong for so many years, they have mostly managed to keep their private lives to themselves. There is very little known about the relationship.

They're hardly even seen in public together. While talking to Paltrow, Winfrey opened up about that being a deliberate decision.

Winfrey says she avoids appearing in public with Graham thanks to advice from her late friend, Maya Angelou. Winfrey used to get upset about tabloids that were constantly perpetuating fake news about her private life, and Angelou set her straight.

“It has nothing to actually do with you,” Winfrey recalls Angelou saying. “It has to do with whoever sat down at that computer that moment.”

Winfrey realized Angelou was right, and says it's what made her guard her personal life more fiercely. “It’s also why I stopped making as many public appearances with Stedman because I realized that every time there’s a new photograph, there’s a new story.”

“It’s an invitation," Paltrow noted.

“It’s an invitation. You got that too, right?” Winfrey responded.

“Yeah, it took me a minute, but I got it," Paltrow admitted.

“I picture it: they’ve got the pictures on the wall. What do we have this week? What expression do we have? What can we create out of that?” Winfrey notes.

Thinking about it that way makes you understand why certain celebrities shy away from the media and the paparazzi so much.

Another topic that Winfrey and Paltrow covered included Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo movement. Paltrow was one of the women who came out early when the scandal broke to report Weinstein’s inappropriate behavior.

Winfrey says she was ‘friendly’ with the film maker and didn't know much about Weinstein's antics with other women, but she did know he was a bully. She now wonders why she put up with him treating her that way.

Source: Yahoo
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