Exhausted Mom's Letter to Husband Goes Viral: "I Need More Help"

There are a lot of different ways that people try to cope when they're having a difficult time. Some yell. Some shut down. Others turn to pen and paper and write, letting their feelings flow freely. This is what one struggling mother of two did when she felt like she was at her wit's end.

She wrote a letter to her husband telling him how she felt. It helped her get it out, and she found she was in good company.

It's not easy being a parent. It's a lot of responsibility and kids will keep you on your toes. When you have to work on top of that, it can be downright exhausting.

Celeste Erlach was a working mom who was really struggling to keep up with all of her responsibilities. She decided to vent by writing, and ended up penning a letter to her husband asking him for help.

The letter, known as 'Dear Husband', has since gone viral. It seems Erlach hit a nerve with women across the country who largely felt the same way.

She cites an example of the recurring problem that happened the night before. She asked her husband to handle the baby one night so she could get some sleep. After 20 minutes of struggling with the fussy baby, he brought the baby up to the bedroom, put him in the bassinette and pushed him toward Erlach, 'a clear gesture that you were done watching him'.

"I wanted to scream at you. I wanted to launch an epic fight that very moment," she wrote. " I had been watching the baby and the toddler all damn day. I was going to be waking up with the baby to feed him all damn night. The least you could do is hold him for a couple of hours in the evening to I can attempt to sleep."

"Just a few hours of precious sleep. Is that too much to ask?" she added.

Erlach notes that she and her husband both grew up in households where their parents assumed the more traditional gender roles.

"Both our mothers were the primary caretakers and our fathers were relatively hands off. They were excellent dads, but they weren't expected to spend a significant amount of time changing diapers, feeding, caring, and tending to the kids. Our mothers were the superwomen who maintained the family dynamics. Cooking, cleaning, and raising the children. Any help from dad was welcome, but unexpected," she wrote.

She also says that they're both seeing friends assume similar gender roles, where the women tend to take up the majority of the responsibility when it comes to kids and domestic duties, whether they work or not. Elrich admits that, guilty as it makes her feel, she can't keep up.

"Maybe our friends are playing the part in public and secretly struggling. Maybe our moms suffered in silence for years and now, thirty years later, they remember how hard it really was. Or maybe, and this is something I berate myself over every single day, I'm just not as qualified for the job as everyone else."

"And as much as I cringe just thinking it, I'm going to say it: I need more help," she admits.

The mom also says she needs more acknowledgement for what she does do, such as continuing to breastfeed, and always being home to care for the children when her husband feels like getting out. She outlined that she needs more help with the kids and house, the occasional acknowledgement for her hard work, as well as some time to herself now and then.

The call for help has empowered other moms, and hopefully dads out there will get the message.

Source: Yahoo
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