Chances are that if you’re in a relationship, you’ll have times of conflict and maybe even complete breakdown. Do you know how to handle such situations? Are you aware that there are valuable keys to help you rebuild your relationship if it’s suffered a breakdown? Relationship challenges are sure to come, so be sure to be prepared by learning how you can address them.
When the challenges come, the argument may make the both of you yell in disgust, the hormones make you act crazy, or the misunderstanding acts like a tornado wiping out everything in its path. You’re both left hurt and perhaps angry. What are you going to do? If you want to rebuild your relationship, one or both of you must apologize. You have to suck it up, release your pride, and simply say, “I’m sorry.” It might not instantly make things better, but it is a key building block to a firm foundation.
Have a discussion.
Once you both have settled down and have had time to process everything, have an honest discussion about what happened. Did you fly off the handle at your spouse because you were so stressed about a work project and took your frustration out on him? Have you let things slide for months and months concerning your unmet needs in your relationship and reached the tipping point? Discuss the dynamics of the issue and the relationship. Communication is so important in relationships, but a good majority of couples will not take the time to openly and honestly discuss issues and solutions. If you need help with communication skills, see a couple’s counselor.
Now that you’ve taken the time to talk and get your feelings out, come up with some solutions that will help rebuild your relationship. If you have to, make a list and stick it on the fridge so you both can see it daily. If you keep doing the same things you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting the same results, so it may be time to come up with alternative solutions.
Rebuilding takes humility and work.
Nothing of value is really created instantly. Rebuilding your relationship will take some humility and selflessness on both parts. It will also take some effort. If you really want your relationship to work out, it’s completely worth it. Far too many couples split and leave a trail of heartache and anger. If you love your partner, do what it takes to make it work.