Conflicts are bound to occur in an intimate relationship. It’s difficult to go through life with the same person without having some sort of difference of opinion occurring. On top of that, you’ve got mood swings, fatigue, and the tendency to take frustration out on those closest to you.
When Relationships Are Severely Strained
What then? You find you and your partner arguing much of the time or you’re always telling your best friend how unhappy you are in the relationship. Do you walk away? Give up? Sadly, that is what many couples do. They get to a point of no reconciliation and opt to break up or divorce and move on. With that comes a great deal of pain.
Alternative To Ending A Relationship
Counselors who are trained in relationships have the ability to open a couple’s eyes to so much more than they could ever see on their own. They deal with relationship problems on a daily basis and over the years they’ve drawn some conclusions about relationships and have strategies that can repair some of the problems.
Couples simply don’t talk through issues or if they do, they allow negative emotions to rule the conversation. Sweeping issues under the carpet only creates frustration and resentment. As a couple, it is your responsibility to talk to each other about issues and concerns- even if it’s hard. You catch him flirting with the waitress? Confront him and have a discussion about boundaries. Tell him how that makes you feel. Let him know that the continuation of such behavior is a deal breaker. She spends all of her time with you nagging and complaining about every little thing? Let her know that you don’t want to hear complaints all the time. Tell her that it makes you angry and not want to spend time with her.
If You Can’t Communicate, Then What?
You can increase communication skills via role playing, writing down your feelings, and just sitting down having a heart to heart with your partner every so often. During therapy it is a great time to practice talking because there is a third party who can mediate. Certainly there are things you’ve wanted to say to your partner but perhaps were afraid to do so. In the safety of a counseling session, you will tend to feel more free to share your concerns.
How Relationships Help You Grow
Men and women don’t always see eye to eye and sometimes need a little help to come to compromise. If your relationship is having problems that you cannot seem to resolve, do some research regarding a relationship counselor in your area. Commit to 6 to 8 sessions of counseling and see if it improves your relationship. You may find that it ends up being better than ever!